Life is full of changes. Some changes are good and some are not. The unexpected changes tend to catch us off guard more often then not. When my mom died in a car wreck, it took me a long time to find balance in my life again. I didn’t live with her at the time but it wrecked my emotions and I really struggled with finding my place in relationships and life for a while.
Struggling with infertility was another life change that I did not see coming. It took me by surprise and I again found myself a hot mess, emotionally. The hormone shots and dr appointments were a lot to take on and I was young enough and determined enough to fight thru it. Thankfully, our infertility journey ended with our third and final IVF, which resulted in our first born child, Chloe.
Of course, this leads me to having children. Adding one child was a huge life change for my husband and I. We did the best we could to make everything work but the balance was thrown WAY off. I stopped focusing on taking care of myself and my home and put all of my time and attention on her. My hubby put more hours in at work and cleaned more around the house for an outlet. Our marriage was good, but we just didn’t know how to find balance to make it work in a healthy way. We added two more kiddos within the next few years and quickly found ourselves in a whirlwind. Finding time to sleep was a chore. We loved our growing family, but finding balance was just too hard to attempt.
Fast forward to today! We have added another little one to our family and are once again trying to rebalance everything. Balancing down time, recreation, school, work, health, and such is a lot of work. We are making strides and finding our new normal.
Here are three things I am doing to help me find balance right now!
1.) Taking one day at a time. Not planning too far out…just focusing on daily goals.
2.) Limiting the outside noise. I’m focusing inward on my family and trying to make sure everyone is getting what they need.
3.) I’m going to bed earlier. Besides being exhausted at 9PM, I need to sleep when my family sleeps, so I can be my best when they wake.
What do you do to find balance when life changes happen in your home?
